*laughing* Yes, you kind of have to get a sense for what everyone else considers hot. (Underwear models with chiseled abs, tight bums, a grin that looks like they're having fun, stubble...) Then you make jokes about how you wish your husband or boyfriend looked like that, in my case, or you wink at someone and smirk and say that's HOT. Um, watch the straight girls do it sometime. ^_^